美國Quora網友討論：女朋友怪我沒有為她挺身而出，我該怎麼辦？

Q: My girlfriend is mad at me for "not standing up" for her. What should I do? (Please read the description before you answer.)

問：女朋友怪我沒有為她「挺身而出」，我該怎麼辦？（回答前請閱讀問題說明）

So my significant other and I are out and about. We have been dating for about 8 months and things have been going well. I am 23 years old and she is my age. We were at this party and she accidentally spilled her drink on a girl in the club. The other girl started to flip out and her boyfriend came to see what the fuss was all about. My girlfriend apologized but that was not enough; the other girl threw her drink on my girlfriend s face and her boyfriend shoved me. Being a quiet and rational guy, I decided to walk away from the situation, so I grabbed my girlfriend and we left.

我和我那位常一起出去玩。我們交往差不多8個月，一切都還不錯。我23了，她跟我同歲。那天我們在派對上，她不小心把飲料濺到了另一個女孩兒的身上。那女孩兒就開始發飆，她男朋友也過來看到底為啥吵架。我女友道了歉，可這還不夠；那女孩把她的飲料潑到我女友臉上，她男友也對我推推搡搡。我是個安靜理智的人，當下決定離開這個是非之地，所以拉著女友走了。

Afterwards my girlfriend was quite upset at me for not standing up for her. I really did not want to fight. What should I do?

事後我女友為了我沒為她挺身而出很是懊惱。但我確實不想打架。我該怎麼辦？

Answered by George Graham

George Graham的回復：

Some time ago a friend of mine was drinking in a bar with his wife when she accidentally did the same as OPs girlfriend and spilled some drink on another girl.

前段時間我一個朋友和他妻子在酒吧喝東西，她也像題主的女友那樣，不小心把飲料濺到了另一個女孩身上。

The girl she spilled the drink on went crazy and just like in OPs story the boyfriend appeared to see what was happening. My friend says his biggest mistake was not to just turn and leave immediately,instead he stepped between the boyfriend and his wife to try to de-escalate things. While he was talking to the boyfriend (who it turns out was pretty chill) the crazy girlfriend smashed a glass in his wifes face.

被濺到飲料的那女孩跟發瘋了一樣，就像題主經歷的那樣，她男友也出現了，來看看發生了什麼事。我朋友說，他最大的錯誤在於沒有馬上轉身離開，而是擋在那男友和自己妻子中間，企圖平息糾紛。可在他跟男友（結果他倒是個冷靜的人）說話的當兒，那瘋女友把一隻玻璃杯砸到了他妻子臉上。

The boyfriend dragged the crazy girlfriend away and my friend called for an ambulance and got his wife outside and began administering first aid.

那男友把瘋女友拖開，我朋友則打電話叫了救護車，還把他妻子弄到外面，開始作急救處理。

As they waited for the ambulance to come, crazy girl appeared again having got away from her boyfriend, but this time she had a knife and went for my friends wife again. This time he had no choice but to stop her. Which he did very violently and very decisively.

就在他們等救護車的時候，瘋女孩掙脫了她的男友再次現身，但這回她拿了把刀，又沖著我朋友的妻子來了。這次他沒有別的選擇，只能制止她，而且他下手很重很果斷。

You see the thing is that he was a very big guy and an ex para who knew how to do things like that. But as he tells it, he felt responsible for the fact that because he hadn t immediately left with his wife when crazy girl started, there were now two women going to hospital and one of them going to jail. He blamed his own self confidence as he thought trouble would come from the boyfriend and he knew he could handle it. Because of that, he says, his wife was scarred for life.

你看，問題是他塊頭很大，又是名退役傘兵，知道該怎麼對付這類情況。可據他說，他覺得要為釀成的後果負責，因為在那瘋女孩開始發作時他沒帶著妻子馬上離開，現在兩個女人都得去醫院，其中一個還要進監獄。他怪自己過於自信，以為麻煩會來自女孩的男友，而且自己能對付得了。他說就因為這個，他妻子留下了終身的創傷。

He says if he could do one thing differently that night it would have been to do what OP did and grab his wife and leave.

他說，如果能重新選擇，那晚他會像題主那樣，拉起妻子轉身離開。

OP if your girlfriend has fantasies of you being some kind of superhero fighting bad guys over a perceived slight to her dignity then she clearly isn t living in the real world.

題主，如果你的女友把你幻想成某位超級英雄，她的尊嚴稍受褻瀆，你就會去揍壞傢伙一頓，那她顯然不是活在現實世界裡。

In the real world bar fights end up with victims like this:

在現實的世界中，但凡酒吧鬥毆，收場時總少不了這樣的受害者：

You did the right thing.

你做的是對的。

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