想要快樂，首先你必須學會感恩！

最新 09-19

全人類有一個共同點，就是我們每一個人都想要快樂，David 一位修士及跨宗教的學者這樣說。而他提議，快樂從感恩而生。這鼓舞人心的一課，要人們慢下來，看看自己何去何從，以及最重要的是學會感恩。

演說者：David Steindl Rast

演說題目：想要快樂，首先你必須學會感恩！

00:12

There is something you know about me, something very personal, and there is something I know about every one of you and that s very central to your concerns. There is something that we know about everyone we meet anywhere in the world, on the street, that is the very mainspring of whatever they do and whatever they put up with. And that is that all of us want to be happy. In this, we are all together. How we imagine our happiness, that differs from one another, but it s already a lot that we have all in common, that we want to be happy.

01:08

Now my topic is gratefulness. What is the connection between happiness and gratefulness? Many people would say, well, that s very easy. When you are happy, you are grateful. But think again. Is it really the happy people that are grateful? We all know quite a number of people who have everything that it would take to be happy, and they are not happy, because they want something else or they want more of the same. And we all know people who have lots of misfortune, misfortune that we ourselves would not want to have, and they are deeply happy. They radiate happiness. You are surprised. Why? Because they are grateful. So it is not happiness that makes us grateful. It s gratefulness that makes us happy. If you think it s happiness that makes you grateful, think again. It s gratefulness that makes you happy.

02:26

Now, we can ask, what do we really mean by gratefulness? And how does it work? I appeal to your own experience. We all know from experience how it goes. We experience something that s valuable to us. Something is given to us that s valuable to us. And it s really given. These two things have to come together. It has to be something valuable, and it s a real gift. You haven t bought it. You haven t earned it. You haven t traded it in. You haven t worked for it. It s just given to you. And when these two things come together, something that s really valuable to me and I realize it s freely given, then gratefulness spontaneously rises in my heart, happiness spontaneously rises in my heart. That s how gratefulness happens.

03:31

Now the key to all this is that we cannot only experience this once in a while. We cannot only have grateful experiences. We can be people who live gratefully. Grateful living, that is the thing. And how can we live gratefully? By experiencing, by becoming aware that every moment is a given moment, as we say. It s a gift. You haven t earned it. You haven t brought it about in any way. You have no way of assuring that there will be another moment given to you, and yet, that s the most valuable thing that can ever be given to us, this moment, with all the opportunity that it contains. If we didn t have this present moment, we wouldn t have any opportunity to do anything or experience anything, and this moment is a gift. It s a given moment, as we say.

04:43

Now, we say the gift within this gift is really the opportunity. What you are really grateful for is the opportunity, not the thing that is given to you, because if that thing were somewhere else and you didn t have the opportunity to enjoy it, to do something with it, you wouldn t be grateful for it. Opportunity is the gift within every gift, and we have this saying, opportunity knocks only once. Well, think again. Every moment is a new gift, over and over again, and if you miss the opportunity of this moment, another moment is given to us, and another moment. We can avail ourselves of this opportunity, or we can miss it, and if we avail ourselves of the opportunity, it is the key to happiness. Behold the master key to our happiness in our own hands. Moment by moment, we can be grateful for this gift.

05:53

Does that mean that we can be grateful for everything? Certainly not. We cannot be grateful for violence, for war, for oppression, for exploitation. On the personal level, we cannot be grateful for the loss of a friend, for unfaithfulness, for bereavement. But I didn t say we can be grateful for everything. I said we can be grateful in every given moment for the opportunity, and even when we are confronted with something that is terribly difficult, we can rise to this occasion and respond to the opportunity that is given to us. It isn t as bad as it might seem. Actually, when you look at it and experience it, you find that most of the time, what is given to us is the opportunity to enjoy, and we only miss it because we are rushing through life and we are not stopping to see the opportunity.

07:01

But once in a while, something very difficult is given to us, and when this difficult thing occurs to us, it s a challenge to rise to that opportunity, and we can rise to it by learning something which is sometimes painful. Learning patience, for instance. We have been told that the road to peace is not a sprint, but is more like a marathon. That takes patience. That s difficult. It may be to stand up for your opinion, to stand up for your conviction. That s an opportunity that is given to us. To learn, to suffer, to stand up, all these opportunities are given to us, but they are opportunities, and those who avail themselves of those opportunities are the ones that we admire. They make something out of life. And those who fail get another opportunity. We always get another opportunity. That s the wonderful richness of life.

08:10

So how can we find a method that will harness this? How can each one of us find a method for living gratefully, not just once in a while being grateful, but moment by moment to be grateful. How can we do it? It s a very simple method. It s so simple that it s actually what we were told as children when we learned to cross the street. Stop. Look. Go. That s all. But how often do we stop? We rush through life. We don t stop. We miss the opportunity because we don t stop. We have to stop. We have to get quiet. And we have to build stop signs into our lives.

09:03

When I was in Africa some years ago and then came back, I noticed water. In Africa where I was, I didn t have drinkable water. Every time I turned on the faucet, I was overwhelmed. Every time I clicked on the light, I was so grateful. It made me so happy. But after a while, this wears off. So I put little stickers on the light switch and on the water faucet, and every time I turned it on, water. So leave it up to your own imagination. You can find whatever works best for you, but you need stop signs in your life. And when you stop, then the next thing is to look. You look. You open your eyes. You open your ears. You open your nose. You open all your senses for this wonderful richness that is given to us. There is no end to it, and that is what life is all about, to enjoy, to enjoy what is given to us.

10:06

And then we can also open our hearts, our hearts for the opportunities, for the opportunities also to help others, to make others happy, because nothing makes us more happy than when all of us are happy. And when we open our hearts to the opportunities, the opportunities invite us to do something, and that is the third. Stop, look, and then go, and really do something. And what we can do is whatever life offers to you in that present moment. Mostly it s the opportunity to enjoy, but sometimes it s something more difficult.

10:50

But whatever it is, if we take this opportunity, we go with it, we are creative, those are the creative people. And that little stop, look, go, is such a potent seed that it can revolutionize our world. Because we are at the present moment in the middle of a change of consciousness, and you will be surprised if you -- I am always surprised when I hear how many times this word "gratefulness" and "gratitude" comes up. Everywhere you find it, a grateful airline, a restaurant gratefulness, a café gratefulness, a wine that is gratefulness. Yes, I have even come across a toilet paper whose brand is called "Thank You."

11:42

There is a wave of gratefulness because people are becoming aware how important this is and how this can change our world. It can change our world in immensely important ways, because if you re grateful, you re not fearful, and if you re not fearful, you re not violent. If you re grateful, you act out of a sense of enough and not of a sense of scarcity, and you are willing to share. If you are grateful, you are enjoying the differences between people, and you are respectful to everybody, and that changes this power pyramid under which we live.

12:23

And it doesn t make for equality, but it makes for equal respect, and that is the important thing. The future of the world will be a network, not a pyramid turned upside down. The revolution of which I am speaking is a nonviolent revolution, and it s so revolutionary that it even revolutionizes the very concept of a revolution, because the normal revolution is one where the power pyramid is turned upside down and those who were on the bottom are now on the top and are doing exactly the same thing that the ones before. What we need is a networking of smaller groups, smaller and smaller groups who know one another, who interact with one another, and that is a grateful world.

13:14

A grateful world is a world of joyful people. Grateful people are joyful people, and joyful people -- the more and more joyful people there are, the more and more we ll have a joyful world. We have a network for grateful living, and it has mushroomed. We couldn t understand why it mushroomed. We have an opportunity for people to light a candle when they are grateful for something. And there have been 15 million candles lit in one decade. People are becoming aware that a grateful world is a happy world, and we all have the opportunity by the simple stop, look, go, to transform the world, to make it a happy place. And that is what I hope for us, and if this has contributed a little to making you want to do the same, stop, look, go.Thank you.

00:12

有些事情關於我的，是些非常私人的問題還有一些我知道是你們每一個人最關心的問題有些我們知道關於我們在世界上任何地方遇見的所有人在街上那是他們做某些事，和忍受某些事情最主要的動力那是他們做某些事，和忍受某些事情最主要的動力那是他們做某些事，和忍受某些事情最主要的動力那就是，我們所有人都想要快樂。就這個問題而言，我們是一樣的我們如何想像我們的快樂與別人不同的快樂但是我們最重要的共同點是我們想要變得快樂

01:08

我的話題關於感恩快樂和感恩之間有著怎樣的聯繫？很多人會說，恩，這很容易當你快樂的時候，你就心存感激但是，請再想一想快樂的人是心存感激的，真的是這樣嗎？我們知道，很多人他們擁有應該令他們感到快樂的東西但他們並不快樂因為他們想要其他的東西或者他們想要更多自己已有的東西我們都知道有些遭遇很多不幸的人這些不幸是我們完全不想沾染的但他們卻深深地感到快樂他們散播歡樂。你會感到驚訝為什麼？因為他們懂得感恩所以，並不是快樂讓我們有感激之情而是感恩之心讓我們快樂如果你認為是快樂讓你心存感激再想一想。是感恩讓你快樂。

02:26

現在，我們可以問，對我們來說，感激的意義是什麼？它是怎麼發生的？我希望你們能想到自己的經驗我們可以從自己的經驗中了解到它是如何運作的我們經歷了一些對我們來說重要的事情一些我們收到的，並且對我們而言很寶貴的東西。而且，是真正由別人給予的。這兩個條件必須同時存在這件事物必須是重要的而且是一份禮物不是你買的，也不是你掙來的。不是你買賣得來的，也不是你工作得來的只是單純的給予了你。當這兩個條件同時符合時，這東西對我很有價值我意識到這完全是饋贈感恩之心油然出現在我心裡快樂也同時出現在我心裡這就是感激如何發生的。

03:31

這一切的關鍵點在於我們不能僅僅體會到單一的感覺。我們不能只有感激的經驗。我們可以是那些存有感恩生活著的人感恩地活著，就是這樣那麼我們如何能感恩地生活呢？通過經歷，意識到我們的每秒每刻都是被給予的這是上天的禮物。不是你掙來的。它不是你透過任何方式帶來的你無法確定你會被贈予其他的時刻但是，那就是能贈與我們最有價值的東西。但是，那就是能贈與我們最有價值的東西。以及尾隨這個時刻而來的各種契機。如果我們沒有現在這個時刻我們不會有任何機會去做任何事，經歷任何事而這個時刻，就是一個禮物就像我們所說的那樣，它是被贈與的

04:43

現在，我們說禮物中的禮物就是機會你真正感激的，是這個機會而不是那個你收到的東西。因為如果那個東西在別處而你沒有機會享受它來體會它你就不會覺得感恩機會是禮物中的禮物我們有這樣的諺語機會只有一次那麼，再想一想每個時刻都是一個新的禮物，周而復始如果你錯失了這個時刻給予你的機會另外的時刻總是會出現我們可以利用這個機會或者我們也可以錯失它如果我們把握這個機會那就是讓我們快樂的關鍵所在通往快樂大門的鑰匙在我們手中每分每秒我們感謝這個禮物

05:53

可是，那意味著我們會對世間一切都心存感激嗎？當然不是我們不會感謝暴力，戰爭，鎮壓，剝削的存在個人層面上看，我們不會感恩朋友的離去，不忠喪友喪親之痛但我並沒有說我們要對世間一切心懷感恩我的意思是，我們感謝每一個時刻背後所帶來的機會即使當我們面對極其困難的問題我們可以回想起這個給予我們的機會然後對它做出回應它可能沒有看起來那麼糟事實上，當你檢視並經歷它之後你會發現，給予我們的大部分時刻都是讓我們樂在其中的機遇我們之所以錯失它是因為我們急著過自己的生活我們沒有停下來看看這個機會

07:01

可是偶爾一些非常困難的事情發生了當這些困難出現時，這個機遇，就是一種挑戰它會讓我們學到些什麼有時是痛苦的例如，學著有耐心我們知道，通往自由的道路不是短跑更像是一場馬拉松那需要耐心。那是困難的它也有可能是捍衛自己的觀點立場捍衛自己的信念這就是給予我們的機會去學習，去遭遇，去堅持所有這些給予我們的機會但是，它們是機會那些自己抓住機遇的人是我們所尊重的他們從生活中獲得了些什麼那些失敗的人，也總能獲得其它的機會我們總能獲得額外的機會那就是生活中美好與豐富之處

08:10

那我們要如何找到善用機會的方法呢？我們每個人如何能找到生活中存有感恩之心的方法不是某一次感到感恩而是每時每刻都心存感激我們要如何做到呢？這是一個非常簡單的方法方法如此簡單，就像小時候大人教我們如何過馬路一樣停下來，看一看，向前走就是這樣我們多久才停下來？我們急著過自己的生活。我們從不停歇我們錯失機會因為我們沒有停下來我們必須停下腳步，安靜下來我們要在人生旅途中時刻提醒自己停下來

09:03

很多年前，我去了非洲回來之後我意識到水的存在在非洲，我沒有可以飲用的安全水源每當我看到水龍頭的時候我受寵若驚每次我打開電燈開關的時候我心懷感恩，非常開心可過了一陣子，我就不再注意到這些了所以我在燈的開關上，水龍頭邊貼了一些小貼紙每次我看到它們就會感受到所以請根據自己的情況自由想像你會找到對你來說最好的方式但你要提醒自己時常停下來當你停下來的時候下一件事就是看一看你看一看，你睜開眼睛你打開耳朵。你張開嘴巴你打開身體的感知系統感知那些精彩豐富的事情這是沒有止境的這就是人生的意義來享受，享受我們被給予的一切

10:06

我們也可以敞開心扉迎接機遇那些能夠幫助他人的機會讓他人開心，因為沒有什麼比所有人都開心更值得高興的了當我們敞開心扉迎接機遇的時候這些機遇會邀請我們做一些事情那就是第三件事停下來，看一看，向前走，然後真正地去做一些事情我們能做的是認真過生命在當下提供的選擇。大多時候，那是去享受的機會但有時，是更困難的事

10:50

但不管是什麼，如果我們抓住了這個機會我們就去完成它，我們是有創造性的人們有創造力而那個停下來，看一看，向前走是賦有潛力的種子那種子甚至可以改變我們的世界因為我們需要，我們在這個時刻我們在感知發生變化的過程中你會感到驚訝，當你-- 我時常感到驚訝，當我多次聽到感恩和感激這些辭彙的出現你可以在任何地方找到一個「心存感恩」的航空公司，一家「心存感恩」的餐廳一間「充滿感激之情」的咖啡館，一款「充滿感激之情」的葡萄酒確實，我曾見過一款廁紙「感謝」牌的廁紙「感恩」的浪潮席捲而來，是因為人們已經開始意識到感恩有多麼重要並且感恩是如何能改變我們的世界感恩可以改變我們的世界以諸多種重要的方式因為當你心存感激，你不會恐懼如果你不恐懼，你就會平和如果你心存感激，你會表現出滿足感，而不是短缺的模樣你會更樂於分享如果你心存感激你會欣賞人與人間的不同並且你尊重每個人這會改變我們生活中的權利金字塔結構

12:23

它無法創造平等的卻能帶來平等尊重而這是最重要的事未來的世界將會是一個網狀物不是金字塔，也不是倒過來的金字塔我所說的革命是非暴力的革命它是如此具有革命性它甚至革命性地改變了革命的概念因為一個普通的革命是權利金字塔倒轉過來那些底層的人站在了頂尖然後做了和以前在金字塔頂尖的人一模一樣的事情我們需要的是小群組的網路小型的群組相互知曉相互溝通那將是一個充滿感恩的世界

13:14

一個感恩的世界，是生活在其中的人，都感到愉悅。有感恩之心的人是快樂的人快樂的人人們越來越快樂我們才越會有一個愉快的世界我們有一個感恩地生活的網路它迅速增長我們不明白為什麼它增長如此迅速當人們對某事「心存感激」時他們就可以點亮一根蠟燭在十年內點亮了總計一千五百萬蠟燭人們開始意識到感恩的世界是快樂的世界我們都有機會只需要簡單地停下來，看一看，向前走來改變世界讓世界變得更美好快樂這就是我所希望的，如果（我的演講）能夠為你帶來一點點動力，做這件事停下來，看一看，向前走。謝謝。

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