一個人的失敗，99％敗在脾氣

Thailand legend -- the White Dragon King warned: as long as everyone has the good temper, everything will turn out to be good. Many people turned to ask me, "Is my career prosperous? Do I have a happy family? Are my children cute? Is my marriage a happy one?" I can only answer like this: "Are you a good-tempered person?"

泰國的傳奇人物─白龍王告誡: 人只要脾氣好，凡事就會好。 很多人來到這裡都問我︰ 我的事業好不好？家庭好不好？孩子好不好？姻緣好不好？我只是回答一句：你的脾氣好不好？

Our life requires us to learn how to behave ourselves decently for better performances, which is a life-long process during which we fail to obtain a graduation certificate. There are all kinds of people, regardless of scholar, farmer, artisan or merchant, who can only make headway by pursuing constant studies.

人的一生都在學做人，學習做人是一輩子的事，沒有辦法畢業的。人生不管是士農工商,各種人等,只要學習就有進步。

01

Learn to admit mistakes

學習認錯

More often than not, people refuse to make an apology for having done wrong as they don't think they are wrong, but the denial of ones' fault is actually a mistake anyway.

人常常不肯認錯，凡事都說是別人的錯，認為自己才是對的,其實不認錯就是一個錯。

The persons we apologize to may include our parents, friends, the public, God, or even our children or the person who bears malice to us, so making an apology does not cause any damage to us but on the contrary, it may prove that we have good manners.

認錯的對象可以是父母,朋友,社會大眾、上帝，甚至向兒女或是對我不好的人認錯,自己不但不會少了什麼,反而顯得你有度量。

Learning to admit mistakes does pay off, representing the great moral cultivation.

學習認錯是美好的，是一個大修行。

02

Learn to be soft-hearted

學習柔和

Human teeth are hard while the tongue is soft. When a man breathes his last, his teeth are all gone but his tongue remains there, so if you can remain soft-hearted all along, your life can last much longer. On the contrary, if you are hard-hearted, you will get the worst of it.

人的牙齒是硬的，舌頭是軟的，到了人生的最後，牙齒都掉光了，舌頭卻不會掉，所以要柔軟，人生才能長久，硬反而吃虧。

If you are soft-hearted, it is the greatest progress made by you in your moral cultivation. We generally describe the character or personal nature of people like this: you are as cold-minded or hard-hearted as the iron. If we ordinary people can cultivate ourselves or adjust our mentality for a better physical and spiritual condition, so our heart will be softened unlike an untamed or wild horse or monkey, and we can have the longevity and a happier life.

心地柔軟了，是修行最大的進步。 一般形容執著的人說，你的心、你的性格很冷、很硬，像鋼鐵一樣。如果我們像禪門說的調息、調身、調心，慢慢調伏像野馬、像猴子的這顆心，令它柔軟，人生才能活得更快樂、更長久。

03

Learn to be more patient

學習生忍

If we can bite the bullet for a while, everything goes smoothly. Take a step back and we can enjoy a better view. Tolerance helps us to dispel all worries, cope with troubles and resolve conflicts. We can minimize problems and totally resolve problems with wisdom and capacity.

這世間就是忍一口氣，風平浪靜，退一步海闊天空； 忍，萬事都能消除。忍就是會處理、會化解，用智慧、能力讓大事化小、小事化無。

We earn a living, live on and seek a better life with more patience, and we have to separate the good ones from the bad ones, distinguish clearly between good and evil, right and wrong, or even accept it.

要生活、要生存、要生命，有了忍，可以認清世間的好壞,善惡,是非.甚至接受它。

04

Learn to effectively communicate

學習溝通

The lack of communication can easily lead to a dispute, conflict and misunderstanding.

缺乏溝通，會產生是非、爭執與誤會。

What really maters is communication, mutual understanding and mutual aid. Every one of us are close friends like brothers, so how can we hit it off well if we fight each other without amicable communication?

最重要的就是溝通，相互了解、相互體諒、相互幫助，大家都是龍兄虎弟，互相爭執、不溝通怎麼能和平呢？

05

Learn to let go

學習放下

Life is like a leather trunk. Lift it up when you use it and lay it down while it is not used. If you cannot put it down as it should be, you are pulling along the heavier luggage, feeling ill at ease. Life is quite limited, so apology, respect and forgiveness can help us relax ourselves and feel at ease by letting go.

人生像一隻皮箱，需要用的時候提起，不用的時就把它放下，應放下的時候，卻不放下，就像拖著沉重的行李，無法自在。人生的歲月有限，認錯、尊重、包容才能讓人接受，放下才自在啊！

06

Learn to show affection to others

學習感動

We should be happy when others obtain benefits and can feel satisfied in face of good deeds and kind-hearted people around.

看到人家得好處，要歡喜；看到好人好事，要能感動。

Showing affection is the very love for others. Many things and words of others in the past several decades could have emotionally move us greatly, so we should try to find ways to emotionally move us.

感動是一個愛心、在幾十年的歲月里，有許多事情、語言感動了我們,所以我們也很努力的想辦法讓別人感動。

07

Learn to live a better life

學習生存

We are supposed to keep fit for a better life, and the good health can not only do us good and our friends and family can rest assured about it, so it can be deemed as a filial behavior.

為了生存，要維護身體健康，身體健康不但對自己有利，也讓朋友、家人放心，所以也是孝親的行為。

It's better to search your soul before you turn in: 「Did I lose my temper today?」

每天晚上睡覺前問問自己：今天我發脾氣了嗎？

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