一種更寬容、更溫和的成功哲學

TED簡介Speaker： Alain de BottonKey words：成功Abstract：Alain de Botton建議我們每個人都去找到自己定義且認同的成功標準，而不是他人或社會的。@TED: Alain de Botton examines our ideas of success and failure -- and questions the assumptions underlying these two judgments. Is success always earned? Is failure? He makes an eloquent, witty case to move beyond snobbery to find true pleasure in our workRating:學習筆記為什麼當代社會，我們常常會對自己的人生、職業感到焦慮：snobs: 我們身邊有許多勢利眼，他們以一小部分的你， 來判別你的全部價值， 特別是職業上的勢利。導致現在是個重視物質的時代。envy和low-esteem: 現代社會常有的一種思想是「努力就會成功」，而不成功的人會被認為是」loser「，一定程度上這導致我們會不不成功的原因歸咎於自己的能力，而忽略了客觀現實，從而使自己陷入」不自信「的狀態，我們也更嫉妒那些曾和我們一樣但獲得後來成功的人。【一個完全徹底以能力取決地位的社會】There are more suicides in developed individualistic countries than in any other part of the world. And some of the reason for that is that people take what happens to them extremely personally.They own their success. But they also own their failure.信仰： 我們除了人類以外沒有其它重心， 我們是從古至今的第一個無神社會建議：So what I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas. and make sure that we own them, that we are truly the authors of our own ambitions. Because it"s bad enough, not getting what you want, but it"s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of a journey, that it isn"t, in fact, what you wanted all along.我想說的是，我們不該放棄， 我們對成功的想像， 但必須確定那些都是我們自己想要的， 我們應該專註於我們自己的目標， 確定這目標是我們真正想要的， 確定這個夢想藍圖出自自己筆下， 因為得不到自己想要的已經夠糟糕了， 更糟糕的是，在人生旅程的終點， 發覺你所追求的， 從來就不是你真正想要的。So I"m going to end it there. But what I really want to stress is by all means, success, yes. But let"s accept the strangeness of some of our ideas. Let"s probe away at our notions of success. Let"s make sure our ideas of success are truly our own. Thank you very much.我必須在這裡做個總結， 但我真正想說的是， 成功是必要的， 但請接受自己怪異的想法， 朝著自己對成功的定義出發， 確定我們對成功的定義都是出於自己的真心， 非常謝謝各位。unfortunate vs loser:You know, in the Middle Ages, in England, when you met a very poor person, that person would be described as an "unfortunate" --literally, somebody who had not been blessed by fortune, an unfortunate. Nowadays, particularly in the United States, if you meet someone at the bottom of society, they may unkindly be described as a "loser."feel sympathy, rather than contempt參考內容Link：TED

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