大家都結婚、生子，依然單身的我，很難不覺得被冷落

「你的朋友會隨著年齡的增長而減少——除非你對朋友的定義很寬鬆。

我以前共事的一個人，他70歲，是費城最有錢的人之一，他能把市裡任何人約出來吃飯。但那些人並不是我說的朋友。

我指的是真正了解你的人，這對我來說意義很大，因為我還是單身。我的朋友們都已經結了婚，還有了孩子，他們能花在朋友上的時間越來越少。 越來越多的人走進了他們的家庭生活。但在我生活里的人，數量一直就沒變過。

我會給他們發簡訊，問問他們想不想去看費城人隊的比賽，然後我總會收到一個秒回的『好』，但在比賽之前肯定會有轉折。他們得重新安排時間，因為『 Ethan 的朋友要辦生日 party』，或者『 Sarah 有場足球比賽』。這樣，我很難不覺得被大家冷落。

我曾經跟他們可是每周見好幾次的，現在一年才能見上五六次。」

「Your friendships shrink as you get older—unless you have a loose definition of friendship.

I used to work with one of the richest guys in Philadelphia. He was seventy years old. He could have dinner with anybody in the city. But those aren』t the types of friends I』m talking about.

I mean the people who really know you. I think it』s amplified for me because I』m still single. My friends have gotten married and had kids. They have less and less time to give. More and more people have come into their lives. But the amount of people in my life has stayed the same.

I』ll text them to see if they want to go to a Phillies game. And I always get an immediate 『yes.』 But something always comes up right before the game. They have to reschedule because 『Ethan』s friend is having a birthday party,』 or 『Sarah has a soccer game.』 It』s hard to not feel left out.

I used to see these guys several times a week. Now it』s five or six times per year.」

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Humans of New York是紐約攝影師Brandon Stanton開創的街頭攝影計劃，他每天在紐約的街頭尋找普通的紐約人，請他們講述自己的生活和感悟，簡單的幾句話里常常有讓人會心一笑或者擊中人心的力量。

在Humans of New York的激勵下，世界上很多城市都有人開始了類似的攝影項目，其中也包括不少中國城市。我們也會從中選擇部分有意思的故事不定期發布。

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