我們有一句老話：「家醜不可外揚」，應該如何取捨？

我們有一句老話：「家醜不可外揚」，應該如何取捨？

There is an ancient words that 『we should keep family scandal secret』, how should we choose to do?

問：

我們有一句老話：「家醜不可外揚」，但是上師又講不應該隱瞞錯誤。那麼應該怎樣取捨呢？

上師答：

不是說家醜一定要往外傳，但是有這種隱瞞心是不好的。該隱瞞的要隱瞞，不該隱瞞的就不能隱瞞。但是，凡夫通常會產生想隱瞞的心，這種心態也是自私的。成就者也有隱瞞的時候，但他不是自私的，他是為了眾生，他怕影響眾生，怕破壞眾生的相續，怕他們的信心退失等等。以這樣的心態去隱瞞是一種利他心。凡夫是自私的心，這是不好的。

我們有時候是要說一些毛病、缺點，但是這都要有佛法里的智慧，佛法是不離智慧的。你要在適當的時候、機緣成熟的時候運用。道理是這些道理，真相是不會變的，但你要善巧運用。眾生不同，所處的年代不同，地域不同，人也不同……這都要觀察，需要用智慧來抉擇的。

Question:

There is an old saying that 『we should keep family scandal secret』. But Guru Rinpoche said that we should not hide mistakes. How should I choose between them?

Guru answers:

We don』t mean that we must disseminate family scandal, but the mind of hiding mistakes is not appropriate. Conceal the things that should be concealed but reveal the ones should not be concealed. However, normal people usually make the idea of concealing, this mind is also selfish. Siddhas may sometimes keep something secret, but they are not selfish. What they do are just for sentient beings. They are afraid of influencing and breaking beings』 continuity of mind, and afraid of the fading of beings』 faith. The concealing with this mind is a kind of altruistic heart. Normal people』s mind is selfish, it is not good.

Sometimes we need to speak out some faults and weaknesses but these should be with wisdom of Dharma. Dharma cannot be without wisdom.You should use it in the appropriate time and mature situation. The senses are there and the truth won』t change, but you should make good use of that. All beings are different in age, region and personality....... We should observe carefully and use wisdom to select.

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