Fake it till you make it 假裝行，直到真的行
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專註三件事：讀書，穿搭，聊天
啰嗦幾句
這是前段時間參加了頭馬俱樂部的演講稿，整理了出來。
所以當晚活動開始前半個小時我才開始寫這篇稿子，
因為是自己的親身經歷，所以思維很流暢，很快就寫完了。
感謝頭馬俱樂部的小夥伴，選擇這篇稿子為當晚最佳的prepared speech；
更感謝當晚點評的Jack，他指出了不足，缺乏科學數據的佐證。因為時間的緣故，我沒有來得及引用數據。如果有下一篇，我會嘗試用理性和邏輯的數據來支撐這個觀點。
Before I start to deliver my speech tonight, I would like to ask all of you a question:
「When is your first time to hear about the saying of
Fake it till you make it?」
在開始今晚我的演講之前，我想先問問在座各位一個問題：
你第一次聽說"Fake it till you make it" (假裝懂，直到真的在行)是在什麼時候？
When it came to me, my first time to hear this saying is at Toast Master Club here, to be specific, right here in this classroom and right there on this stage, from our goddess--Slyvia. She was standing just right here and saying it as a closing remark for her speech: Fake it till you make it. The words were so impressive which hit me immediately, that I could not help thinking of it after I came back home.
對我來說，我第一次聽到這句話，是在頭馬俱樂部，確切地說，就是在這間教室，就是在這兒講台，從我們的女神--Slyvia這裡聽說的。當時她站在這裡，給她的演講做總結的時候，提到了這句話：
Fake it till you make it.
當時我就震驚了，以至於那天晚上回家後還止不住回想這句話。
That night, I can"t help recalling my childhood. When I was only 4 years old, one day I was sent to my uncle"s where thousands miles away from my hometown. You can imagine how upset she was feeling andhow desperately she would miss her family and parents in a totally strange place. So for many many times, this litter girl asked herself: Why my parents sent me here? Is that because they don"t love me? During that period, I had terrible grades in my pass examination of primary school.
那天晚上回去，我不禁回想了自己的童年時代。我4歲的時候，有一天我忽然就被送到了千里之外的我伯父家裡。你可以想像得到一個小女孩忽然被送到一個完全陌生環境里，她會有不安，她會有多渴望回家，多渴望能再見到自己的爸爸媽媽。那段時間，一直問自己很多次這個問題：為什麼我爸媽要把我送來這裡? 她們是不是不愛我？那段時間，就連小學的入學考試我都考得很糟糕。
And one day, when I saw the big smiles on one of my classmate"s parents』 faces when the teacher told them that their daughter did well in exams. I thought I might have the right answer. That I am not smart enough to be my parents" girl.
直到有一天，當我看到我同學爸媽因為得知他們的女兒考試考的很好，而露出滿意的笑容時，我以為我可能找到了答案：也許我不夠聰明，不能當好我爸媽的女兒，所以我爸媽把我送來我伯父這裡。
So I decided to fake that I am a good student. Firstly, I told myself that I am a smart girl who can do good in class. Then I have quit from the play group of my playmates. I didn"t go to play with the kids until my homework was finished; I did not make noises or makes faces in classes; And moreover, I did not try to fraud my uncle"s signatures on my books when teachers asked students to repeat the text. And every time when the lazy me came out to lure the good me to quit, I faked that I was really a good student to do what the good students would do, to make the right choices.
所以從那天起，我開始「假裝」自己是個好學生。起先，我告訴我自己說是一個很聰明的小孩，可以考到好成績。然後我漸漸地從一起廝混的小夥伴們當中脫離了出來。作業沒寫好之前，我絕對不跟他們一起玩耍；在課堂上我也不做鬼臉或者故意弄出聲音來破壞課堂紀律了；更重要的是，老師讓我們背誦課文的時候，我再也不仿造我伯父的簽名了。每次那個」懶小孩「出來誘惑這個」好小孩「出來玩的時候，我都用這一招。我「假裝」自己真的是個好學生，去做一個好學生應該做的事，做正確的事。
Little by little, day by day, I finally got the first place in my class and in my grade. But guess what ? The happy ending did not show up. My parents did not take me back until several years later when I was mature enough to make her own choice.
改變是一點一點的，一天天過去了，我終於在期末考試的時候能拿到班裡第一名了，甚至年級的第一名了。你們猜結果如何？顯然，大團圓結局還沒有到來。即使這樣，我爸媽也沒有把我接回身邊。直到幾年過去，我慢慢長大成為一個有主見的姑娘了。
The issue has been haunted me for years and I cannot step out to find the answer to the question.
And the other day, to be stressed, in March 2017, I woke up in the morning as usual working days and stood in front of the closet and looking at myself in the mirror. Wow~What I can see was a really puffy, pale and desperate middle-aged woman. That moment, a wired idea has jumped into my mind: if it does not matter whether I am smart enough to get my parents love, maybe it is because I am not pretty enough to bring my parents attention.
這個念頭一直盤旋在我腦海深處，很多年，我都試圖找到這個問題的答案。直到去年3月的一天。那是一個很普通的工作日早上，起床後站在衣櫃的鏡子前面--一個身材浮腫，臉色蒼白，神情絕望的中年婦女形象出現在鏡子里。哇塞，簡直不忍直視自己啊。TMD！那一刻忽然有個古怪的念頭浮現出來：如果我爸媽不是因為我不夠聰明，那就是嫌我不夠漂亮，所以才不喜歡我？（怪我咯~）
So I begun my second trying of fake it till you make it. Firstly, I told myself that I am pretty, I am pretty, and I am pretty. And Secondly, I begun to learn from the good-looking girls around me or the "it" girls. Thanks to Internet~ You can learn everything you want.
所以我開始了第二次」假裝行，直到真的行」的歷程。首先，我還是告訴我自己我很漂亮，我很漂亮，我很漂亮。（重要的事情說三遍哈。） 然後開始從身邊，周圍的漂亮女孩子或者網上「It」girls 那裡學習扮美。幸運的是我們生活在這個互聯網時代，啥都可以學習到。
Here came what I was thinking during that period: Yes, maybe I cannot change my height, but I can change my size; I cannot change my face, but I can change my look; I cannot change the tone of my skin color, but I can change my dressing color and even my life color. As a result, the next following one year, I did 3 things: cutting my hair short, losing weight of 30 Ibs and obtaining a stylist certificate both from China and Japan.
那段時間裡，我內心的想法是：也許我改變不了我的身高，我可以改變我的體重；我改變不了自己的長相，但可以改變自己的穿著；也許我改變不了膚色的基調，但可以改變服裝的顏色乃至我自己生活的色彩。所以接下來的一年，我做了三件事：剪短了頭髮，減肥了30斤，獲得了中國和日本認證的造型師的證書。
Fake it till you make it.This is not about talking to others. But it is relating to talk to yourself--the real you underneath the bottom of your heart. You have to face the internal you to find out what do you want or what kind of person you want to be. If you feel you are less confident, then fake it, and do what confident people do; If you want to be more optimistic, just fake it and do what optimistic people do, smiling, laughing, persistant or whatever. If you want to be outstanding ,then fake it, then keeping practicing it over and over again.
假裝行，直到真的行。這不是和別人對話，是和自己對話--和自己內心深處那個真正的自己對話。你需要面對內心深處的你，去發現你真正想要的，或你想成為什麼樣的人。
如果你覺得你不夠自信，先假裝自信，那些自信的人，怎麼做你就怎麼做；如果你想更樂觀一些，先假裝樂觀，按照那些樂觀的人的做法去做，微笑，大笑，堅持所有一切；如果你想變得卓越，先假裝自己是個卓越的人吧，堅持，堅持，再堅持，重複，重複，再重複。
Fake it till you make it.It is not about teaching you to fraud. As this principle is not working when you only want to cover your outer appearance. For instance, if you want to show your value in front of some new friends, you do not need to fake you are rich by wearing a luxury handbag or suits. What"s worse, it would descend you as it will reveal the truth.
當然，這個原則不是教你作假。當你想要顯擺的時候，是無用功。比如，如果你想要在你新結識的朋友面前去顯示你的價值的時候，不必拎著一個大牌包或者套裝去假裝自己是個有錢人。這麼做的後果只會適得其反，降低你的格調嗎，細節會泄露事實。
In a word, our minds change our thoughts, our thoughts change our behavior and our behavior change our outcome.And finally it will change our life.
總之，觀念改變思想；思想改變行為；行為改變結果，而結果將改變我們的人生。
我是Vivian
讀一些無用的書，做一些無用的事，花一些無用的時間，都是為了在一切已知之外，保留一個超越自己的機會，人生中一些很了不起的變化，就是來自這種時刻。
by 梁文道
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