個人習慣完全指南：7個類別158個積極反思，成為最好的自己
譯註：
本文作者 Conor Neill，西班牙 IESE 商學院領導力專家。作為一名企業家，他創辦了5家公司，銷售了16架私人飛機，並在西班牙建立了第3大私人飛機機群。本文乃是作者對自己15年的日記總結而成。
在我的 MBA 畢業典禮上，我最喜歡的兩位教授：Brian Leggett 和 Manel Baucells。
原標題：The Complete Guide to Personal Habits: 158 Positive Reflections in 7 Categories to Be The Best Version of Yourself.
文：Conor Neill
譯：清單待完成
It is 43 years since I was born, 25 since I finished school and 12 since I graduated with my MBA as seen in this picture below. I have written some notes on life every day since I was 14 years old. This long post is a summary of ideas that came from a review of all those journals.
自我出生已有43年，自從我完成學業已有25年，自我 MBA 畢業已有12年。從14歲那年起，我每天都會寫下一些與生活有關的日記。這篇長文即是對這些日記的一個回顧總結。
This is a collection of phrases that keep me focused on what is important. I wrote this list out one Sunday afternoon 5 years ago sat at my home dining table.
以下的一系列短語句子，使我能夠把精力集中在生命中重要的事情上。五年前的一個周日下午，我在家中的餐桌旁寫下這份清單。
There are seven categories:
有七個類別:
① Dealing with People
① 與人相處
② Take Disciplined Action
② 採取自律行動
③ Accept Reality as it is
③ 接受現實
④ Make Progress towards Results
④ 朝著結果前進
⑤ Stay Healthy
⑤ 保持健康
⑥ Living with Purpose
⑥ 有目的地生活
⑦ Personal Growth
⑦ 個人成長
I make no claim to originality and I leave you a list of thinkers who have inspired me and are far more responsible for any wisdom here than myself.
這些觀點並非我的獨創，我在文末留下一份啟迪我的思想家的名單，他們為我帶來了這些智慧。
① Dealing with People
① 與人相處
1 You will not change them. Let it go.
1 你無法改變他人.不如放手。
2 Who will cry at your funeral?
2 誰會在你的葬禮上哭泣？
3 Never miss a moment to encourage someone
3 永遠不要錯過任何一個鼓勵他人的時刻。
4 You will become who you spend most time with.
4 你和誰相處的越多，你就會越類似於他/她。
5 Communication is measured by what is understood, not how well it is articulated.
5 溝通是否通暢的衡量標準在於，所說的內容是否能夠被理解, 而不是表達方式的好壞。
6 It takes two to fight.
6 一個巴掌拍不響，打架需要兩個人。
7 Confrontation may be necessary.
7 對抗有時是必要的。
8 Other people can handle more than you think. Be careful with white lies.
8 他人隱藏的信息可能比你想像的要多。小心那些善意的謊言。
9 Real listening is hard. It requires 100% attention.
9 真正的傾聽很難做到。它需要100%的全神貫注。
10 There is no such thing as a 「self-made man」. Be grateful.
10 根本就沒有什麼「靠自我奮鬥而成功的人」。要心存感恩。
11 Ask more questions.
11 要多提問題。
12 The one asking the questions is in control. Are you asking the questions?
12 提出問題的人，對問題持有控制力。你在提問題嗎？
13 Remain curious. The 4 「why?」 often gets the real reason.
13 保持好奇心。當你第四次問「為什麼」時，通常能夠找到真正的原因。
14 Learn to attract and use mentors and advisors.
14 學會吸引並利用導師/指導者。
15 Build networks before you need them.
15 在你需要之前就建立人際網路。
16 Get really, really good at concisely presenting your ideas.
16 要非常非常善於簡潔地表達你的想法。
17 Learn to sell.
17 學會推銷。
18 Aggression begets aggression.
18 攻擊導致回擊。
19 Surround yourself with people strong enough to change your mind.
19 與比自己強的人相處，他們能夠改變你的想法。
20 If you don』t 「do politics」 others will 「do you」.
20 如果你不「搞政治」，別人就會「搞你」。
21 Learn to differentiate sceptics (good for you) from cynics (bad for you).
21學會區分「懷疑論者」（對你有益）和「憤世嫉俗者」（對你有害）。
22 In the end people won』t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.
22 到最後，人們不會記得你說過或做過什麼，他們只會記得你給他們帶來的感覺。
23 Build lifelong friendships.
23 建立終生的友誼。
24 Be kind to your mum.
23 好好對待你的媽媽。
25 Hire well, manage little.
25 僱傭的好，管理的少。
26 Spend time with people who want you to succeed. Some 「friends」 don』t want you to grow or change.
26花時間和那些希望你成功的人在一起。有些所謂「朋友」並不希望你成長或改變。
27 Nobody will ever tell you that you made them laugh too much.
27 沒有人會告訴你，你讓他們笑得太多了。
28 What is your label?
28 你的個人特色是什麼？
② Take Disciplined Action
② 採取自律行動
1 Change is painful. Growth requires change. No pain, no gain.
1 改變是痛苦的。成長需要改變。一分耕耘，一分收穫。
2 Everyday changes less. Change that.
2如果日常生活波瀾不驚、狀若死水，改變這一現狀。
3 Incremental change always wins.
3漸進式改變總能取得最終勝利。
4 Perfect is the enemy of good. Good is the enemy of great.
4完美是良好的敵人。良好是卓越的敵人。
5 The best indicator of mastery of big things is mastery of small things. Master the small things.
5 做好小事情，才能取得大成就。做好每件小事。
6 Do not wish it were easier. Wish you were better.
6不要指望事情變得容易；而要希望自己變得更好。
7 Get a coach.
7 找個教練。
8 Learn to ask for advice and help.
8 學會尋求建議和幫助。
9 In the Olympics, nobody wins both marathon and 100m sprints. Focus
9 在奧運會上，沒有人能同時贏得馬拉松和百米短跑。請保持專註。
10 Routine sets you free.
10 習慣使你得以解放。
11 Get good at motivating yourself.
11 善於鼓勵自己。
12 Knowing what to do and not doing it is the same as not knowing what to do.
12 知道該做什麼而不去做，等同於不知道該做什麼。
13 The most dangerous place is in your safety zone.
13最危險的地方就是待在你的安全區。
14 「I will try」 is never enough. Remove 「try」.
14 「我願意嘗試」，永遠不夠。刪掉「嘗試」。
15 If you want to be a writer: write; A singer: sing; A teacher: teach.
15 如果你想成為一名作家，去寫；想成為一個歌手，去唱；想成為一位老師，去教。
16 Kindness and hard work will take you further than intelligence.
16善良和勤奮，對於你來說，遠比智慧重要。
17 If you never act, you will never know for sure.
17 如果你從來不行動，你永遠也無法知道確切情況。
18 Delayed gratification is necessary.
18延遲滿足是必要的。
19 We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.
19我們必會遭受兩種痛苦中之一：自律的痛苦或後悔的痛苦。
③ Accept Reality as it is
③ 接受現實
1 If a problem has no solution, it is not a problem. It is a fact.
1 如果一個問題沒有解決方案，那這就不是問題。這是事實。
2 Bad things do sometimes happen to good people.
2 好人有時也會遭遇不幸。
3 Perfectionism messes you up.
3完美主義會把你的生活搞得一團糟。
4 Make allowances for incompetence.
4 體恤弱者。
5 Pain is guaranteed. Suffering is optional.
5疼痛是必然的；苦難是可選的。
6 Very, very little is truly under your control.
6 你真正能控制的事情，其實微乎其微。
7 The past is gone except in your head. Learn to forget.
7 過去的記憶，要麼留在腦海中，要麼隨時光流逝了。請學會遺忘。
8 Ignore the little things.
8 忽略那些小事。
9 No one cares about it as you do.
9 最關心你的人，是你自己。
10 Stop any negative comments about people not in the room. You are not helping them and are likely positioning yourself in the victim role.
10 不要背地裡，說三道四。你不是在幫助他人，而是很可能將自己置於受害者角色中。
11 If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else』s, we』d grab ours back.
11 如果我們都把自己的問題堆到一邊，只看到別人的問題，那麼我們的問題還會回到眼前。
12 If it rains, it rains. There is nothing you can do except put up an umbrella.
12 如果天要下雨，那就會下雨。除了帶把傘，你別無選擇。
④ Making Progress towards Results
④ 朝著成果前進
1 There is no 「they」.
1 沒有「他們」。（只有「我們」）
2 Love is discipline. Love is work.
2愛是自律。愛是努力。
3 Laziness is the life killer.Laziness is the original sin.
3 懶惰是生活的殺手。懶惰即是原罪。
4 When in doubt, just take the next small step.
4 如有疑問，採取下一個小步驟試試。
5 Commitment before success. Always.
5 做出承諾，然後才能取得成功。永遠如此。
6 Stop justifying. Break the 「yes, but…」 habit.
6停止為己辯護。打破「是的，但是……」的習慣。
7 The most reliable predictor of what you will be doing 5 minutes from now is what you are doing now.
7 你現在正在做的事情可以完美的預測，五分鐘後你將要做什麼。
8 Break inertia. Every hour ask 「Is this giving me long term benefit or short term happiness?」 If No, then Stop.
8 打破慣性。每個小時都要問一下「這會給我帶來長期的益處還是短期的快樂？ 」如果都不是，那就停止。
9 If you desire a specific effect in your life you must put in motion the cause of that effect.
9 如果你希望自己的生活產生一些具體的影響，那麼你就必須把造成這種影響的原因付諸實施。
10 Success is a process, not a product. Work on your process and the product will come.
10 成功是一個過程，而不是結果。致力於過程，結果就會隨之而來。
11 Every time you blame someone, you give away your power to change things.
11 每當你責怪某人時，你就放棄了改變事物的能力。
12 Leadership doesn』t happen when things are easy. It is the final 1% that makes you world class.
12 當事情很容易時，領導力並不會產生。最艱難的1%才讓你邁入第一流水平。
13 Don』t see the wall.
13 不要看到牆（阻礙）。
14 A problem is only a problem if you choose to view it as a problem. It is an opportunity.
14 如果你把問題視為問題，那麼這就只是一個問題。這應當是一個機會。
15 A dream will remain a dream until it is converted into disciplined, daily action
15 除非夢想被轉化為日常自律行動，否則就只是空夢一場。
16 If you see yourself as a victim, you will always be one.
16 如果你視自己為受害者，你將永遠都是。
17 Stop being a victim. (Stop enjoying other』s pity).
17 停止成為受害者。（不要再享受別人的憐憫。）
18 The circle of pity: The more you feel sorry for yourself, the worse your life will get.
18 憐憫的循環：你越是為自己感到難過，你的生活就會越糟糕。
19 Excuses are a way of not facing up to reality, for pulling out when things get a bit difficult.
19 借口是一種不敢面對現實的方式，當事情稍微有點困難時，就退縮。
20 One small step completed is a million times better than one big plan thought about.
20 已經完成的一小步，要遠遠好於想像中的一個大計劃。
21 Act instead of talking about it.
21 以行動代替空談。
22 Next time you are about to complain, stop; explain what you are going to do about it.
22 當下一次你要抱怨時，停下來；說明一下你要採取什麼行動。
23 The world does not owe you a living.
23 這個世界不欠你的。
24 You have to pass the thorns to get to the roses.
24 你必須越過荊棘才能到採得玫瑰。
25 The grass is not greener on the other side.
25 對面的草坪並不比這邊的更綠。
26 Refuse to use your past as an excuse.
26不要拿過去當做借口。
27 Stop saying 「yes, but…」
27 不要再說「是的，但是..……」。
28 You don』t need permission. (For what it』s worth, you have mine.)
28 你不需要他人的許可。
29 The problem contains the solution.
29 問題包含其解決方案。
30 It takes 10 years to become an overnight success.
30 台上十分鐘，台下十年功。（一夜成名需要十年的時間。）
31 If you don』t ask, you don』t get.
31 如果你不提問，你就會不明白。
32 Justification is much, much easier than the hard reality of accepting responsibility.
32 辯解要遠遠易於承擔責任所帶來的殘酷現實。
33 Do it now.
33 立即行動。
34 If you rest too long, the weeds take the garden. Activity finishes the miracle.
34 如果你休息得太久，雜草就會佔滿花園。行動起來，打掃這片幽秘之地。
⑤ Stay Healthy
⑤ 保持健康
1 You can』t be great if you don』t feel great.
1 感覺不舒適，行動也無力。
2 Keep fit.
2 保持健康。
3 Eat well.
3 吃得營養。
4 Brush your teeth.
4 勤快刷牙。
5 Dream. Play like a Child.
5 要有夢想。像小孩那些玩耍。
6 Don』t smoke.
6 不要抽煙。
7 Daily exercise is an insurance policy against future illness. Best leaders are fittest leaders.
7 日常鍛煉是預防未來疾病的一種保險政策。最好的領導者也是最健康的。
⑥ Living with Purpose
⑥ 有目的地生活
1 Life is a gift.
1 生命是一份恩賜。
2 Does today』s schedule reflect your deepest values?
2你今天的日程安排是否反映了你內心最深處的價值觀。
3 Good students deliver what the teacher wants. Great students deliver what they know to be right.
3 好學生遞交老師想要的作業；優秀的學生遞交他們認為正確的作業。
4 The best is yet to come.
4 最好的還在後面。
5 Imagination is the supreme uniqueness of humans. Use it.
5 想像力是人類至高無上的獨特之處。好好運用吧。
6 Do not ask: 「why me?」; Ask: 「What can I learn? What can I do? Who can I help?」
6 不要問：「為什麼是我？」；要問：「我能學到什麼？我能做到什麼？我能幫助誰？」。
7Carpe diem. Memento mori. (Seize the day. Remember you shall die).
7（拉丁語）及時行樂，抓住今天。死亡警告。 (把握今天，及時行樂。凡人皆有一死。）
8 Integrity is much more than intention to be honest. It is having a system in place to deliver on your promises.
8 誠信並不僅僅是誠實的意圖，它需要建立一個系統來兌現你的承諾。
9 Say 「No」 more.
9 要經常說「不」。（避免被任務壓垮的方法，乃是回絕掉過多的任務。）
10 Chains of gold are no less chains than chains of iron.
10 金鏈子和鐵鏈子沒有什麼區別，依舊是鏈子。
11 Reason is the rudder. Passion is the sails. You need both.
11理性是舵，激情是帆；二者兼顧，缺一不可。
12 You are not your little voice.
12 行動--而不是「你想要」這種念頭--塑造了你。不要等到想要做什麼時，才會去行動；立即行動起來。
13 Success always starts with ambitious goals. Life gives what you ask of it.
13成功總是始於熱切的目標。念念不忘，必有迴音。（生活總是會給予你所欲求之物。）
14 We are educated for busy-ness, not for listening to our own minds at work.
14 我們被教導為要在工作中保持忙碌，而不是傾聽自己的想法。
15 Poverty is about much more than money.
15 貧窮並不僅僅是沒錢。
16 Being everything to everyone is really being nobody to no one.
16 對每個人都有求必應， 等同於對於每個人來說你都一文不值。
17 Success can only be measured from within.
17 成功只能從內心來衡量。
18 Smell the roses.
18 細嗅薔薇。
19 Have fun. Every day.
19 做人吶，就是要開心一點。（每一天，享受樂趣。）
20 Fun makes life worth living.
20 樂趣讓生活變得有意義。
21 Everybody dies. Not everybody truly lives.
21 眾人皆有一死。有些人行屍走肉的活著。（並不是每個人都真正地活著。）
22 The world is not out to get you.
22 這個世界並不是為了你而存在。
23 Life is not easy. Life is not fair. This is how it is.
23 生活不易，也絕非公平。事實就是如此。
24 There are always good reasons to be angry, disappointed, let down. Ignore them.
24 生氣、沮喪、失望總是有緣由的。放下，別理它們。
25 Listen to your angst. It is telling you something important. Don』t turn on the TV to avoid it. It will only get worse.
25 傾聽你的焦慮。它告訴你一些重要的事情。不要打開電視以迴避，情況只會變得更糟。
26 It is a marathon, not a sprint. It doesn』t matter if you are ahead at the mid-point, it matters that you reach the finish.
26生活是一場馬拉松，而不是短跑。笑到最後，才是笑得最好（你在中途是否領先不重要，重要的是你到達了終點。）
27 The opposite of play is not work, it is depression.
27 玩耍的反面不是工作，而是抑鬱。
28 The opposite of love is not hate, it is apathy. It is believing that merely existing is actually living.
28 愛的反面不是仇恨，而是冷漠。冷漠試圖讓你相信，單純的存在即是真正的生活。
29 Remember where you are climbing to and don』t just stick to the ladder.
29 記住你的目的地，而不要僅停留在梯子上。
30 The unexamined life is not worth living, but the over-examined life isn』t worth living either.
30未經審視的生活是不值得度過的，但過度審視的生活也不值得。
31 Don』t compare your life to others; you have no idea what their journey is all about.
31 不要將你的生活同他人的進行比較；你根本不知道他們具體經歷了什麼。
32 No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
32 除了你自己，沒人能掌控你的幸福。
33 The reward for conformity is that everybody likes you except yourself.
33 從眾的回報是每個人都喜歡你，但除了你自己。
34 Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
34 你的孩子只有一個童年。讓它值得回念。
35 Be true to yourself. Lying feels good. Until you are found out.
35 忠於自己。撒謊的感覺是很好，直到你被發現為止。
36 Take a walk with a turtle. Pause and see the journey.
36 和烏龜一起漫步。停下來，回顧旅程。
37 Know the difference between price and value. A cynic knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.
37能夠區分價格和價值。憤世嫉俗者對所有事物的價格一清二楚，卻對價值一無所知。
⑦ Personal Growth
⑦ 個人成長
1 The strongest steel is forged in the hottest furnaces
1 最熱的熔爐，鍛造最硬的鋼。
2 Some answers can only come from inside.
2 有些答案只能來自於內心。
3 Courage is not the absence of fear. It is acting in the presence of fear.
3勇氣並不是沒有恐懼；而是直面恐懼，採取行動。
4 Your unconscious is wise. Its messages are often difficult. You need to listen carefully.
4 你的潛意識蘊含著智慧。接受這些信息往往是困難的。你必須仔細傾聽。
5 We are blind. Only other people can help us see clearly.
5 我們是盲目的。在其他人的幫助下，我們才能明察秋毫。
6 Make your emotions work for you, not you for them.
6 讓你的情緒為你服務，而不是反過來。
7 When you fall, focus on where you slipped, not where you fell.
7 當你跌倒時，留意跌倒的地方，而不是專註跌倒的感覺。
8 We are most blind when we know the most. Assumptions so deep we cannot see them anymore.
8知道越多，就越盲目。預設立場的程度如此之深，以至於我們被蒙蔽雙眼。
9 Ask: 「what did we learn today?」 everyday.
9 每天都要問自己：「我今天學到了什麼？」
10 Work harder on yourself than you do on your job.
10 關心自己，勝於工作。
11 Best way to learn to do it right is to first do it wrong
11 試錯，乃是最佳成功之道。
12 The more you go to your limits, the more your limits will expand.
12 越接近於極限，極限就會越擴展。
13 Mastering a few things is much better than mediocrity in many, and it is the route to mastery of big things.
13精通一部分事情，遠遠好於泛泛了解許多事情，且這是精通大事情的必由之路。
14 Read daily.
14 每天閱讀。
15 Excellence in one area is the beginning of excellence in every area.
15 一個領域的優秀，開啟每個領域的卓越 。
16 Incremental improvement always wins.
16漸進式改進，總能取得成功。
17 Outlearn your competition.
17 要學得比競爭對手快。
18 Every single person in the world could be a genius at something, if they practiced it daily for at least 10 years or 10,000 hours.
18如果花上至少10年時間或1萬小時，每天保持練習，則世上每個人都可能是某方面的天才。
19 The only source of good knowledge is bad experience 。
19 良好的知識的唯一來源，乃是糟糕的經驗。
20 Make the best of the worst. It is easy to make the best of the easy times. It is hard to make the best of the hard times.
20 充分利用逆境，從中學習；順境時易，逆境則難。
21 Life is a contact sport.
21 生活是場肉身搏鬥。
致謝：本文的18位影響者
有許多人的作品啟發了我這項清單。此文是我對自己15年來的日記回顧編撰而成。有些短語是我自己的，另有許多則是直接摘錄於我在書中讀到的、在演講中聽到的、或是在博客上看到的。以下這13個人影響了本文所表達的觀點。
1 Tom Peters 湯姆·彼得斯
2 Seth Godin 賽斯·戈丁
3 Jim Rohn 吉姆·羅恩
4 Tony Robbins 托尼·羅賓斯
5 Marshall Goldsmith 馬歇爾·戈德史密斯
6 M. Scott Peck 斯科特·佩克先生
7 Aristotle 亞里士多德
8 Socrates 蘇格拉底
9 Seneca 塞內卡
10 Blair Singer 布萊爾·辛格
11 Shimon Peres 西蒙·佩雷斯
12 Kahlil Gibrain 卡利·吉布林
13 Malcolm Gladwell 馬爾科姆·格拉德威爾
14 Bill Treasurer 比爾·司庫
15 Verne Harnish 凡爾納·哈尼什
16 Rita Mae Brown 麗塔·梅·布朗
17 Mathieu Ricard 馬修·里卡爾
18 John Bird 約翰·伯德
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原文：conorneill.com/2016/05/02/the-complete-guide-to-personal-habits-158-positive-reflections-in-7-categories-to-be-the-best-version-of-yourself/
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