怎樣看待父母「逼婚」？How do we think forced marriage by parents？

問：我們到了一定年齡，家裡人就開始安排各種相親，開始逼婚，讓很多人都不願意回家，請問上師，父母這樣做對嗎？

答：結婚、生子，這些都是要靠緣分的。如果緣分到了，好比瓜熟蒂落，自然水到渠成！如果緣分不到，再強迫也沒用，都是徒勞無益，結果會令你大失所望。

但是作為兒女，無論怎樣都要理解父母的心情。為了父母高興，也可以說一些方便語，哄一哄嘛！如果父母和兒女都能換位思考，站在對方的角度、心態去處理事情，結果就會好得多。

Question: Family members start to arrange blind dates and force into a marriage when we reach a certain age, which makes a lot of people reluctant to go home. Guru, are parents right to do so?

Guru answers: Both of marriage and having child depend upon karma. When the karma matures, which is like a melon falls as it is ripe, water comes and a canal is formed, it happens naturally. If the karma isn』t mature, their force is useless which is in vain, and the result will disappoint you.

However, as children, we should understand parents』 feeling anyways. In order to make parents happy, we can also say some convenient words to humor them. If both parents and children can think in others』 shoes, and deal with things from the opposition』s point of view and mentality, the result will be much better.

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