怎樣引導家人入佛門？How to lead family members to take up Dharma？

問：怎樣引導家人入佛門？

答：四攝受法——布施、愛語、共事、同行，這些是一個善知識或上師要具有的攝受弟子的方法，我們對家人也可以運用這些。尤其在剛開始的時候，不能跟他硬碰硬，不能跟他犟，要慢慢引導他。

布施，為他付出，讓他高興。愛語就是說一些好聽的話，善巧方便嘛！共事是為了引導他、度化他，也可以與他做相同的事。比如，他特別愛說話，剛開始就應該陪他多聊聊，說一些閑話。雖然學佛人不能說閑話，但是這個時候要特意說，陪他多說說閑話，你這樣去隨順他，慢慢找機會引導他。真正用心去接觸他，一定有機會。

普賢菩薩有十大願王，其中一個就是恆順眾生。恆順眾生是具有戒定慧的功德。戒是自心清凈，定是有定力，自己的信念、見解是不動搖的。慧是有智慧，有很多善巧方便。戒定慧都有了，才可以恆順眾生，否則就不是恆順眾生，而是跟著眾生造業了。恆順眾生說起來容易，真要做，也不是誰都可以做的。但是我們對自己要有自信。

Question: How to lead family members to take up Dharma?

Guru answers: The four methods of attraction– giving, kind speech, cooperation with others to lead them into the truth, and altruism --- are the methods the virtuous teacher or the Guru employs to approach and save disciples. We can also use these methods to benefit our family members. Especially at the very beginning, we shall not go head-to-head with him, but guide him gradually.

Giving is doing things for him and making him happy. Kind speech is to talk nicely, which is also 「using skillful methods」. About cooperation with others to lead them into the truth, for the purpose of guiding and saving him, you can also do the same thing as he does. Say, he is very fond of talking, then at the beginning you should spend more time talking with him, gossiping a little bit. Dharma practitioners shall not gossip, but at this time you should gossip intentionally and talk to him a lot. Be agreeable with him like this, and look for chances to gradually guide him. As long as you approach him sincerely, there must be chances.

Bodhisattva Samantabhadra has the King of the Ten Vows, one of which is being agreeable with sentient beings. However, doing so requires the merits of precepts, samadhi and wisdom. 「Precepts」 is to keep the mind pure. 「Samadhi」 is to possess the composure, so that one』s own belief and view will not shake. 「Wisdom」 is to have wisdom, exploiting a number of skillful methods. By possessing precepts, samadhi and wisdom, you are really being agreeable with sentient beings. Otherwise, it is not being agreeable with sentient beings, but creating karmas with the beings. It is easy to talk about 「being agreeable with sentient beings」, while in action, not everybody can make it. But we should have confidence in ourselves.

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