把佛法獻給家人Give Buddha Dharma to Your Family

學佛修行不是為了受苦受累，更不是為了起煩惱。我們學佛修行，應該越修生活越美滿，家庭越和睦。因為你有修行就有智慧，就會處事、會待人。

The aim of learning Buddhism and practicing is neither to suffer nor feel upset. After learning Dharma, the more we practice, the happier and the more harmonious our families should be. Because by practicing, you will get wisdom and come to know the ways to get on well with people and deal with matters.

但是很多學佛人因為家人不信佛、不學佛，還反對自己，就棄家人於不顧，甚至與家人吵架。這是傷害眾生！有福報、有根基、有緣分的人才能進入佛門，才能學佛修行，否則是不可能的。家人沒有像你一樣的福報與智慧，你更應該悲憫他們、照顧他們，讓家人體會到學佛的好處。

But for some people who learn Buddhism, their family members don』t believe in or learn Buddhism, even object to them. So they ignore and even quarrel with their family members. This is hurting sentient beings! Only people with merits, foundation and karmic connection can have access to Buddhism, otherwise, they can』t. Your family members don』t have the same merits or wisdom as you, so you should take pity on and take care of them, showing them the benefit of learning Buddhism.

家裡人反對你，與你吵鬧，生活一團糟，你一時應對不了這些障礙，於是傷心失望，然後就想逃避：「還是自己學佛重要，不管他們了。」結果家越來越不像個家，最後只剩下一大堆煩惱，很可憐！不會學佛還學佛，不懂佛法還修行，都修偏了。

When your family members object to you, quarrel with you, and your life is messy, if you can』t manage the obstacles at the time, being disappointed and want to escape, and think to oneself, 「it』s important to learn Buddhism by myself, just ignore others」, then your home won』t be like a home any more, with only piles of afflictions. What a pity! Learning Buddhism without knowing how and practicing without knowing how -- both are deflected.

讓眾生高興，這是行善；讓父母高興，這是孝順。所以不管什麼時候，不管採取什麼方法，能讓家人高興就行；但要知道，這不是為了自己，而是為眾生。以前不聽父母的話，惹他們傷心、生氣，現在隨他們的心，滿他們的願，他們覺得兒女變好了，然後也開始接納佛法了。以前對愛人特別不好，學佛後對他（她）特別好，家裡也乾淨利索了，然後愛人也開始跟著學佛了。這就是普度眾生！慢慢能感化他們，你就當菩薩了。

Making all beings happy is performing good deed; making parents happy is filial piety. So no matter when, no matter how, just making your family happy is fine. But you should know that it』s not for yourself, but for all beings instead. You used to disobey your parents, causing them sad and angry, but now just follow their requests and make them happy. As a result, they will think their children have become better and they will begin to accept Buddhism. If you used to treat your husband or wife not well enough, but after learning Buddhism, you treat him or her the opposite way, making your home tidy, then he or she will also begin to learn Buddhism. This is helping sentient beings universally. Influence them gradually and you will become the Bodhisattva.

但有些人不懂這個道理，自己把門一關，念佛誦經，磕頭打坐，家也不收拾，飯也不做，甚至與家人吵鬧。家人一看，你沒學佛時還不是這樣，學佛了反倒不如以前了，能不反對你嗎？你這樣一邊傷害家裡眾生，一邊拜佛、供佛，佛菩薩也不會加持你，善神護法也不會保護你。因為你已經違背了佛法，違背了上師三寶的教言。你的家人，先生、太太、孩子這些眾生都需要你的照顧和關心，而你卻不管不顧，這是捨棄眾生。捨棄眾生就等於捨棄了菩提心，等於捨棄了佛法。你可以不進佛堂、不上香、不磕頭，只要你照顧好家人，讓他們高興，佛菩薩自然而然就會滿意，善神護法自然而然就會護持你。這樣你今生也快樂、來世也快樂，生生世世都會快樂。學佛修行應該是這樣的結果。

But some people don』t understand the truth, and they just close the door, pray to Buddha, chant sutras, make prostrations, and sit in meditation, without cleaning home or cooking dinners, even quarreling with their family. In the eyes of your family members, you are not the same as before learning Buddhism, or even worse, then how can they support you? While hurting the beings in your family, you are worshipping and offering Buddha, but Buddha will not bless you, neither will good gods and Dharma protectors. Because you have breached Buddhism and the teachings of the Guru and the Three Jewels. The sentient beings in your family, like your husband or wife, children, etc, all need your care, but you just ignore them, which is abandoning all beings. Abandoning all beings means abandoning Bodhichitta, and abandoning Buddhism. You are allowed not to enter the Buddha Hall, offer incense to Buddha, or make prostrations, but only if you take good care of your family and delight them, the Buddha will be absolutely satisfied, and both good gods and Dharma protectors will bless you definitely. In this way, you will be happy from life to life. Such should be the result of learning Buddhism.

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