應不應該和前任複合？先來想想這些

如果你曾經和心愛的人分開，你可能會明白分手後那段時間有多麼煎熬和難過。首先你必須忍受失去伴侶的內在痛苦，你們曾經那些在一起做過的事情會一遍遍在腦海中迴響。當這種痛苦的煎熬積累到一定程度時，就會開始懷疑分手的決定。如果是你主動提出分手的，那麼此時你就會更加懷疑。開始質疑分手到底是正確的決定還是自己太過魯莽？這樣真的好嗎？甚至，開始想像應不應該和前任複合？

想要和前任複合這種想法估計我們許多人都曾有過，但是順利和前任複合並不是那麼簡單的事情，否則的話當初也不會分手了。但也不是沒有辦法的，你可以通過尋找和前任仍然有機會在一起的跡象，來預測你能否順利和前任複合。所以在選擇和前任複合之前，你應該認真思考一下這些事情。

1

The reason for your breakup

當初分手的原因

Why did the two of you break up? How serious was the cause of your breakup? People break up for all kinds of reasons, some more serious than others. There are some reasons that are easy to forgive, like a missed date, or something petty, and if your breakup was caused by something minor, then you have a good chance if you gave it another go. But, there are also reasons that might be way too serious to overcome – the law calls them irreconcilable differences. With these you』d probably best forget it and move on.

在決定是否和前任複合之前，應該想想你們兩個當時為什麼分手？分手的原因是否是致命的。情侶們總是會因為各種各樣的原因分手，有些原因的確是無法逆轉的。但有些原因卻很容易被原諒，比如錯過了約會，或者一些瑣碎的事情，如果你的分手是由一些小事情引起的，那麼你就有一個可以再試一次的好機會。但是，也有一些理由可能過於嚴重，根本無法克服——法律上稱之為不可調和的差異。如果是這樣的話，最好還是忘掉複合這件事兒，努力向前看吧！

2

How long the two of you have been apart

分手的時間長短

Time heals many things, and while a breakup might seem like the end of the world, down the line it might look like the most natural thing in the world. So the longer the two of you have been apart, the lower your chances of getting back together becomes.

都說時間可以治癒一切，而分手可能看起來像是世界末日，從這一點上來說，既然好不容易從分手的世界末日中掙脫出來，誰還會再選擇陷入過去的痛苦當中呢？所以你們兩人分開的時間越長，能夠複合的機會就越少。

3

How things ended between you

當初是如何分手的

Did you break up through a text? Did the two of you sit down and decide that it was the best thing for both of you? Or was it a messy breakup full of insults and aggression?! The manner in which the two of you brought matters to a close will significantly affect your chances of getting back together. Generally speaking, the more amicably you ended things between you, the better your chances of getting back together.

你們是通過一條簡訊就分手了嗎？還是你們倆坐下來決定分手對彼此都是最好的結局？又或者是一場極其混亂的分手，當時你們倆都在氣頭上甚至激烈爭吵呢？兩個人結束戀情的方式在很大程度上影響著未來是否有複合的機會。一般來說，越友好地結束這段戀情，你們重歸於好的機會就越大。

4

Your actions after the breakup

分手後的行為

Some people are affected deeply by the things their ex partners do after they break up – sometimes even more so than before the break up. Things like committing to a new relationship, even for a brief stint, could ruin the chances of ever getting back together. So could the actions following the breakup; was there any regretful behaviour whilst emotions were running high?

有些人會被分手後所做的事情深深影響——有時甚至比分手前還嚴重。比如輕易承諾一段新的戀情，哪怕只是短暫的一段時間，都可能會毀掉複合的機會。那麼，分手後的行為真的如此不理智嗎？在情緒不穩定時，千萬要避免用另一個人來彌補上一段戀情造成的遺憾和痛苦。

5

How deeply the two of you were involved

你們的交集到底有多深

How deeply had you reached into each other』s lives? The more deeply the two of you were involved, the more likely it is that it will work if you get back together. For instance, partners who share a child or children are more than twice as likely to get back together after a breakup compared to childless couples.

你們對彼此的生活究竟有多深的了解？在對方的生活中你參與的越深，重歸於好的幾率也就越大。例如，與沒有孩子的夫婦相比，有孩子的伴侶在分手後複合的可能性就高出兩倍多。

6

Emotional attachment

情感依附

How do you feel when the two of you are close together? Do you still feel the urge to touch each other ever so lightly? If there is still an emotional flame that burns between you, then you might still have a good chance.

你們倆在一起的時候你感覺怎麼樣？如今你是否仍然感到有一種衝動想要觸碰對方？如果你們之間還存在著這種感情火花，對彼此還保持著一份情感依附，那你們可能仍然有很大的複合機會。

7

Whether you are able to forgive each other

是否能夠原諒對方

If you are able to have a frank discussion and forgive each other whole heartedly, then this is a very positive step towards getting the two of you getting back together.

如果你們能夠開誠布公地進交談，並願意真心地原諒對方，那麼這將是一個非常積極的步驟，完全可以讓你們兩個人重歸於好。

分手從來都不是件容易的事，即便你是那個主動放手的人。分手之後一段時間的調整是不可避免的，特別是如果你們已經在一起很長時間。這種感覺有時真的很痛苦令人心碎，甚至讓你跌入放縱和痛苦的深淵。但是不要給自己壓力，不必強迫自己儘快去約會，或者儘快振作起來，每個人都有著自己與眾不同的步調。無論如何，要快樂勇敢的開始每天的生活，直面未來，不管有沒有那個他在身邊。

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